Seeking sanity, becoming spacious

I was talking with one of our elected town board members recently about a subject other than biking and what came out of my mouth was a phrase I had used before. It starts, “I am not a radical….” I am not. I have lived a very conventional life.

I am married to a man I love very much. We have two children we are raising together in a suburban home along with two cats and one dog. We eat dinner together almost every night and talk a lot to each other. (Actually, that may be the most radical part of our lives given current culture..) We go to church most Sundays. Okay, I work for a church. In many ways, we practice a lot of things that are upheld as conservative values.

This fall I drove with my son and some friends to attend the “Rally to Restore Sanity” in Washington DC. It was my son’s idea; he’s 15. Jon Stewart’s final words really got to me. (At the rally of course I didn’t really hear them, it was when I returned home and watched parts of it on You Tube.)

Reflecting back, being there in that crowd made up of all kinds of people, and Stewart saying, “we live now in hard times, not end times,” something shifted in me. It made me realize I have to stand up for my own “can we be sane about this” way. I haven’t done that much. Mostly I leave arguing to the extremes and pray that they end up at a middle ground.

So over the following weeks and months, while I walked my dog and fell to thinking about things, I realized, yet again, how crazy and complicated our lives have become. It’s all too much and too easy to feel hopeless when we are tired, overworked, over scheduled, under rested. Lots of people don’t have choices, they are struggling to survive, this is not about that. This is where many of us make choices to watch tv over exercise, eat on the run, drive when we could walk, sign our kids up for every organized activity possible. We can make different decisions, we can make different choices. That’s the sanity we need to restore. And, I hear, though I’m not there yet, that when you slow down, and practice something like meditation, time actually opens up, becomes spacious. I really want to feel that.

Slowing down can give us some space to breathe, consider where we are, and where we want to go. So to me, right here right now, in this suburb where I live, biking and walking to nearby stores and services can go a long ways towards helping restore sanity to our overworked busy lives and maybe, by extension to our world.



  1. Truth. I remember living and driving in Westchester before I moved up to Albany where I relied on my GPS to get around. Now that I ride a bike everywhere I can tell you in detail how to get places.

    By the way welcome to the world of blogging from the Albany Bicycle Coalition. I look forward to reading what you have to say, and not to pimp our posts, although I see myself doing that more and more everyday, but check out our post entitled “People For Bikes: If I Ride

    1. I am still try to figure out my way around WordPress and I’ll see if this goes through as I expect… Great video, thanks for the link Christopher. I recently started following your blog and am hoping to make to it Albany for an Albany Bike rescue night. I have a lot to learn.

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